Benefits of Being Childless
Unlike my last blog, this one is actually about me, and the fact that I have never given birth; but am a mother and grandmother nonetheless. First off, I want to thank the Lord for my "unanswered prayers".
In my first marriage I wanted chilren, but my husband kept telling me he wasn't ready. I was 26 years old when we got married, right in the prime of childbearing years; and was ready to have babies; or at least I thought so then. I didn't put a lot of pressure on him about it, but it did come up from time to time. Oh sure, I could have quit taking my birth control pills (and not tell him), but something inside said "don't do it". Didn't feel right about forcing a child on someone who "wasn't ready" for one. By the time I turned 32, he was still "not ready", and it was really disheartening to think I may never have a child. But a few months later I found out the real reason why...he wanted a divorce.
It took a long time of mourning the loss of that marriage, but I finally did come to the CLEAR realization that not having children with him was a BLESSING. We were not going to have to fight over custody, or child support, or who the kids would spend the holidays with. I don't think my heart could have taken it.
NOW I see it as a blessing, although at the time you couldn't have convinced me of it. I did love that man, and had every intention of spending the rest of my life with him, and I knew he would be a great daddy...but he had other ideas.
A lot of time has passed under the bridge since then and I am SOOOO BLESSED that I just can't CONTAIN it. At 38 years old I married the SWEETEST man on the earth (not counting my Daddy), who came to me with two teenagers, a daughter and a son; and now we have three of the sweetest, most gorgeous, most talented grandkids you would ever want to see. I AM NOT PREJUDICED...JUST STATING A FACT!!!
In my years of singleness I had asked the Lord to send me someone who would love me just half as much as I had loved my husband, and BOY DID HE DELIVER!!!!!! ABUNDANTLY!!!! AND EXCEEDINGLY ABOVE ALL I COULD HAVE IMAGINED!!!! I am convinced tht there is not another man like my Country Boy (CKB, Sr.) on the face of this earth. When we met he instantly thought that I HAD HUNG THE MOON. Don't laugh, there is nothing wrong with him believing that;}
I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND MY FAMILY, even if I didn't give birth to 'em... THE LORD put them in my life for a reason, AND I AM SO THANKFUL HE DID!!!
Hence, the title of this story "Benefits of Being Childless" really wasn't a good name for this story (sorta stole it). The title should have been 'LOOK WHAT THE LORD HAS DONE"!!!!!!! I AM CHILDLESS NO MORE!!!!!!!! THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!!!!!
In my first marriage I wanted chilren, but my husband kept telling me he wasn't ready. I was 26 years old when we got married, right in the prime of childbearing years; and was ready to have babies; or at least I thought so then. I didn't put a lot of pressure on him about it, but it did come up from time to time. Oh sure, I could have quit taking my birth control pills (and not tell him), but something inside said "don't do it". Didn't feel right about forcing a child on someone who "wasn't ready" for one. By the time I turned 32, he was still "not ready", and it was really disheartening to think I may never have a child. But a few months later I found out the real reason why...he wanted a divorce.
It took a long time of mourning the loss of that marriage, but I finally did come to the CLEAR realization that not having children with him was a BLESSING. We were not going to have to fight over custody, or child support, or who the kids would spend the holidays with. I don't think my heart could have taken it.
NOW I see it as a blessing, although at the time you couldn't have convinced me of it. I did love that man, and had every intention of spending the rest of my life with him, and I knew he would be a great daddy...but he had other ideas.
A lot of time has passed under the bridge since then and I am SOOOO BLESSED that I just can't CONTAIN it. At 38 years old I married the SWEETEST man on the earth (not counting my Daddy), who came to me with two teenagers, a daughter and a son; and now we have three of the sweetest, most gorgeous, most talented grandkids you would ever want to see. I AM NOT PREJUDICED...JUST STATING A FACT!!!
In my years of singleness I had asked the Lord to send me someone who would love me just half as much as I had loved my husband, and BOY DID HE DELIVER!!!!!! ABUNDANTLY!!!! AND EXCEEDINGLY ABOVE ALL I COULD HAVE IMAGINED!!!! I am convinced tht there is not another man like my Country Boy (CKB, Sr.) on the face of this earth. When we met he instantly thought that I HAD HUNG THE MOON. Don't laugh, there is nothing wrong with him believing that;}
I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND MY FAMILY, even if I didn't give birth to 'em... THE LORD put them in my life for a reason, AND I AM SO THANKFUL HE DID!!!
Hence, the title of this story "Benefits of Being Childless" really wasn't a good name for this story (sorta stole it). The title should have been 'LOOK WHAT THE LORD HAS DONE"!!!!!!! I AM CHILDLESS NO MORE!!!!!!!! THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!!!!!
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